Mary thought she had her momming all together. After all, Jesus was a pretty good kid. There are no stories in the Bible about His sleepless night and soiled outfits. No parenting issues. No tantrums. No terrible twos. Nothing, we hear nothing about Him until He turns 12. Then Mary up and loses Jesus! In one day, Mary goes from “I rock this mom life” to “My child is missing. I have no clue where he is… I lost my son!”
Right after attending this spiritual high moment at the Passover, all hell breaks loose! Just when she’s feeling all refreshed and build up spiritually, Her son goes missing! The stress, trauma and sadness. The embarrassment! She is not just feeling scared for Jesus, she’s carrying the weight of knowing she’s lost the Son of God! That’s a lot of pressure!!
Just when we as moms think we have a certain stage of momming under our belts a new stage pops up. In this and my current case, puberty hits. (Yay hormones...Not.)
Just when we are finished weaning our babies off the bottle then it’s time to potty train them. Just when we get in the routine of homework and sports then summer hits and we have to find a new rhythm. Just when we buy a new wardrobe for our children (while we still wear holely underwear from 7 years ago) they change their clothing style from preppy to skater.
Life is about seasons. It’s not a one and done timeline. We evolve and change. Each season brings new challenges. Once we get one season down it’s time again to learn how to handle the next season. A lot of time we don’t know or understand what’s next. Mostly I pretend like I know what I’m doing while wondering why the doctors at the hospital where I gave birth let me bring this actual human baby home with me.
We see at the end of these scriptures that they find Jesus. But it says they didn’t understand what he meant(verse 50). It’s not always easy to understand what our kids are going through. Half the time I have no stinking clue what my kids are talking about. Between Fortnight dances and trending slang words, I feel like a foreigner sometimes.
Most of the time we just have to let them talk, listen to them, hear them. It says Mary pondered this in her heart (verse 51). She still tried to learn in this new stage how to handle him. She mulled it over and tried to learn what was best for Jesus and what he needed. We see she didn’t fly off the handle. Instead even while she didn’t understand she still kept momming! She still listened and ponder all of what she was seeing happen in Jesus’ life. She still obviously did something right considering the fact that Jesus grew in wisdom.
The same can be true for us. When we face new parenting stages, when we don’t understand our children or what they are saying, we can ponder the situation. We can ask God for wisdom. We can still work on listening and respecting our children and their emotions enough to help them grow in wisdom, stature, and favor! If Mary can do it so can I! If Mary can do it so can you!!
“Every year Jesus’ parents went to Jerusalem for the Passover festival. When Jesus was twelve years old, they attended the festival as usual. After the celebration was over, they started home to Nazareth, but Jesus stayed behind in Jerusalem. His parents didn’t miss him at first, because they assumed he was among the other travelers. But when he didn’t show up that evening, they started looking for him among their relatives and friends. When they couldn’t find him, they went back to Jerusalem to search for him there. Three days later they finally discovered him in the Temple, sitting among the religious teachers, listening to them and asking questions. All who heard him were amazed at his understanding and his answers. His parents didn’t know what to think. “Son,” his mother said to him, “why have you done this to us? Your father and I have been frantic, searching for you everywhere.” “But why did you need to search?” he asked. “Didn’t you know that I must be in my Father’s house?” But they didn’t understand what he meant. Then he returned to Nazareth with them and was obedient to them. And his mother stored all these things in her heart. Jesus grew in wisdom and in stature and in favor with God and all the people.”
Luke 2:41-52 NLT
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